Actually, I think I agree with your style, if you will.

The girl I'm looking for doesn't need makeup to look beautiful. She doesn't have to be brainy, but she isn't stupid either.

The girls I tend to try to chase after are the hard to get ones... They always have something planned. Their schedules are filled to the brim... They also tend to be strong women. Not a frail little girl who is scared of the world. A woman who isn't afraid at all to stand up to you if you do something wrong.

There's another big thing. She can't be too dependent on money. I'm not looking for a spoiled rotten daddy's girl to turn into a trophy wife.

I think that's all I can add for now.

Physically in boys I look for cuter faces I guess. A bit taller than me and not too skinny. I tend to focus on the eyes most, and the more unusual or indecisive the colour is, the better. I don't like those really creepy bright popping out blue eyes though. Hair colour and complexion doesn't really bother me, and neither does face shape.

I don't really like sporty sorts. I don't mind how they dress as long as they're not so well-groomed that I look like a homeless person or something when standing next to them. Don't particularly like beards or mustaches but don't mind them being hairy otherwise.

Personality wise I like my lads caring and kind and considerate and loving. I like them polite but not overly so, and with a sense of humour and wit. I like them to be understanding because I have a nasty case of stick-you-foot-in-it-itis and often offend people accidentally. I like them brainy but that one isn't essential. I know everyone has rough days but I don't like lads who are depressed all the time that much. I like a lad who has a big grin. Doesn't nesseserily have to show it much, but has one none-the-less. I like laid back, not the loud gobby jumping on table sort.

Oh and as an atheist, I don't want some pushy [insert religion here] who's always trying to force their beliefs in me. But I don't think anyone does, really. Or anything else, like animal activist or w/e. Don't mind religious as long as they're tolerant of my beliefs too.

Geez I'm picky.

Trudi and I would get along just fine. :

A woman actually willing to be seen with me in public. 😛

I really shouldn't have any more criteria than female knowing me...

...but I do. Though, I'm pretty open minded about such.

In terms of appearance, I don't need a supermodel (indeed, I'd just look uglier next to her), but I don't want someone I'd be ashamed to date in public. Oh, I also don't want to date anyone that could squish me.

In terms of intellect, I value sense and logic more than book smarts - I'd much rather date an ordinary person, but one with a lot of common sense, than a rocket scientist. I don't wanta genius because I'd be stupid in comparison, and I don't want an idiot because, well, I get impatient when people do stupid things, regardless of their intellect. (before anyone makes the obvious quip, I get impatient with myself very frequently.)

In terms of beliefs, I'd tolerate a real religious person as long as she respected that I don't have much religious fervor.

I'd be happy with someone that either agrees or disagrees with my politics, as long as she could disagree in an intellectually stimulating way - and respect a difference of opinion. Though, I hear it's not a good idea to date someone with differences in politics, so I dunno.

I don't want to date anyone who makes a lot more, or a lot less money than I do. Economics is a major factor in almost every divorce that happens, and I think it'd help if the couple start on a relatively level playing field.

Similar interests (not hte same, just similar) is a must. I think that's true of any relationship, be it friends, romance, etc.

Personality wise, I'm pretty open, there are only a few specific types I don't tend to get along with (authoritarian types for sure, or the types that just have to get their way.) I value loyalty and trust very highly.

I dunno. I don't really see myself in any sort of romantic venture for a long, long time, sio it isn't like ti matters much. ^^; I'll add more later, probably.

Well, I've aleardy met the girl of my dreams, and i guess she contains all the right things i want in a lover. i am pretty picky too... but she fell into my expectation perfectly.

-Must have self respect. Ok, i know some dont care how they look, but falling into the common "fat person" category doesnt work. You dont need to be fat, it is something you can change if you try. but being fat isnt the problem, being OBESE is. That just shows that you dont have much self respect. Also, they cant go overboard on makeup or cosmetics. They might have a pretty body, but if its covered with cosmetics... then eww. A person/woman must know that she looks fine without a second though. Like, if she can walk out the door knowing that she's confident in how she looks without makeup, then awesome.

-she must be responsible, as in, not living home without a reason. for example, my girlfriend went to a university down in the same city, so no reason to live on campus, but now she goes to a medical school like 5 hours from that, and she's responsible enough to get straight A's and still manage her life no problem. Also, the partying type dont fly with me, because parties are meant for high schoolers and 4 year college people.

-she must be kind, and enjoy simpler things. for example, while we all need money, it shouldnt matter to her, but not spend it foolishly. Also, i like being able to spend time together, going out for a walk or to dinner, or on a cruise or something. I would want to share the world with her, and in return get all that i give.

erm... yeah, theres my input >.>;

I'm attracted to both genders and I guess the criteria is different for each.

Just give me a man or a woman who agrees with my feminist priniciples without asking me if it should be called "humanism" or some likewise BS.

I also don't date blondes and green or blue eyes are preferred.

T and A is what gets me. A girl's gotta have those good traits. ;D

But a bit more on the serious side, it's got to be a girl's personality. I don't like those really prissy stuck-up types who think they're better than anyone for one reason or another. Newsflash, they're not.

Personally, I'm not afraid to be babied, so any girl who can cuddle and make feel wanted and important is A-OK in my books.

Despite popular opinion, physical attractiveness is not the only thing. People do have to have nice personalities.

And lastly, their eyes. A lot can be told about a person by looking at their eyes.

This question keeps proping up and everytime it does my answer changes significantly. Mostly because I'm still not really sure, I always just try stabbing in the dark.

Plus, these days I'm (whipped) so deep in relationship that I see the opposite gender as Tricia and Not!Tricia. Sad? Perhaps. True? Not sure. Romantic? Kinda. Corny? Undoubtably.

I think it might be easier to phrase the question as "Who have you dated and what were they like?", because everyone has some ideal that more or less doesn't work out in every regard when it comes down to dating. What's attractive and what you want as opposed to what you'll settle for and what you get aren't mutually exclusive.

Thinking about it that way, a sampling of my dating pool shows that I typically date introverts with thick brown hair, feminine features, and light eyes. They've all really liked Zelda (?) and they've all been intelligent, but not necessarily academically inclined. They'd probably have all been considered "above average attractive" by the general population. They have also all been slightly to moderately shorter than me and had histories of being slight loners. They all radiated sexuality and some mystery. All of them had dark secrets or something and difficult (?) childhoods. Two were musicians. All of them fixated on how wonderful I was and told me constantly. Two of them (the musicians, no suprise) were also incredibly fickle. All of them at some point or another have used the logic "You're a better person than I am" in breakup convos.

Make of it what you will, there's probably alot more you can read into with that description than if I just typed "I like people who have nice personalities!".

Despite popular opinion, physical attractiveness is not the only thing. People do have to have nice personalities.

And lastly, their eyes. A lot can be told about a person by looking at their eyes.

What do you consider a nice personality? 😛 Same with the next line, what about their eyes? Their expression? How steady they are? Their colour?

Okay, my turn.
Personally, I don't like womean that wear a ton of makeup, it just doesn't attract me. About certain physical aspects of the female body. It doesn't matter to me. What I look for is personality and at least some wit and intillect (sp?). Also liking videogames/anime/manga/magic would be a plus. Or dealing with them, and me of course.

I'm a fan of the 'hourglass' look myself.

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But, like, SX, that would require more explaination, logic and technicalities, which I'm not prepared to put myself through.

As long as she has similar interests and a semi-similar personality, I'd pretty much be happy =)

'geeks' seems to describe it all nicely for me. ^^;

i tend to get attracted more to someone's personality then their looks.

Seconded for what Becca said. I'm tremendously geeky myself, thus personality attracts more strongly than looks. No surprise then that my last major relationship was with a girl I met on the internet =P (or for that matter that the lass I'm currently interested in I met online too).

With that said though, I'm still male and red-blooded, so I still need to have some physical attraction to those I become interested in as well.
This may seem horrendously stereotypical, but I'm a complete and utter sucker for blondes. The classic blonde hair and blue eyes look is what tends to do it for me. However, I'm still really picky about even that - I don't like the REALLY blonde, like bright yellow colour hair. There's gotta be a good complementing contrast between eyes and hair.
I also tend to prefer "cute" rather than "beautiful", but then again my definition of that may be entirely different from your own personal definition.
In addition, like some others have expressed, I prefer a woman who feels confident enough with her looks without drowning her skin in cosmetics.
And as an added fun comment, on a scale of oranges, grapefruits and watermelons, I'm partial to grapefruits myself.

~That Guy.

First off, THANK YOU FOR VOICING THAT @ all the guys stating a girl doesn't need makeup. HUGS TO ALL OF YOU.

I'm amused that nobody's mentioned height so far in this (EDIT: Gah! Sorry, Trudi! Just noticed you did **hug**). Maybe it's just my classic opinion, but I have always looked for a guy who's taller than me. Having to look down at the one I love just doesn't feel right to me.

I like guys who have a good sense of humor. Good means "can understand my silly streaks and insanity at times", "not a complete perv, but not a complete prude either", and "completely open-minded with the ability to laugh at himself". And not easily offended (as I can be a really offensive person at times). On the other hand, he needs to be able to carry on serious conversation as well, because... well, life isn't all laughter and sunshine, much to my dismay. And if he can't handle that, I don't want to the stick-in-the-mud dragging him every step of the way.

And finally, he needs to be passionate. I don't mean in the completely romantic sense (while that is a plus :3). I mean, dedication to the things he loves, whether it be games, sports, chess collections, his Oreo-recreation of the Taj Mahal... I don't care. As long as he loves something and has the drive to keep that fire alive... that will definitely reflect in the relationship. Otherwise, I'll be the only thing/person he cares for, and that just feels creepy in my opinion.

I'm sure you're probably rolling your eyes as you read this and know that Craig fits pretty much everything I've listed here. And I'm thankful every day to have found such a close-to-perfect match ('cause of course, nothing's perfect). There's nothing wrong with having high expectations, just make sure they're attainable and that you're willing to be flexible if need be.

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Hmph, fine then, be that way.

But in all seriousness, most of you guys and gals are going on about how personality matters more than looks. Well, I'm not gonna lie to you, if I find a person physically unnattractive, there is no way we're gonna date. Sure, we can become friends, but not date. I'm in a state now where I'm looking for a girl I can spend the rest of my life with, so if you wanna be with me, I gotta be sure we're gonna make pretty babies.

That doesn't mean I don't value a girl with a good personality, don't get me wrong! If I meet a pretty girl with a s****y attitude, then its for me. I don't consider myself a perfectionist, but I honestly don't believe its too much to ask for a girl who's both attractive and has an awesome personality, do you?

I really prefer girls who are smaller than me, but its pretty hard to find girls who aren't smaller than me. I like girls who aren't too skinny, and not too chubby, (I'm not nitpicky I sweeeear) and any girl I date MUST know how to properly make sum beef. This is a definite. MUST KNOW HOW TO COOK SOME BEEF. If not... we're gonna have some issues. >=|

Does that seem a bit much to look for in a girl? I really don't think so. But just because I say all these things doesn't mean that I'm not open to change. The me of today is almost nothing at all like the me of a few years ago. New people have in the past, and will in the future, open up my eyes to things I've never looked for in a person, and fix my complete ignorance of some aspects of people. Or at least, I would hope so.

Recently, I've been... dating, we shall say, a girl who has all these qualities I admire in a girl. I like this girl alot, and hope that we can have a long and meaningful relationship. I've been getting to know her more and more and I'm finding out thats she's like the perfect match for me.

BUT

I also said that for the last girl I dated, and that relationship... well... it didn't end so well. Only time can tell things of this nature, only time can unravel these tangled fibers of life, so I guess I'll see what happens, huh?

I'm pretty sure I noted that while I value personality more than looks, looks is on the requierments list. I don't need (nor will I ever get) a supermodel, but I want someone that looks at least decent. And what Ash and a few others said on makeup - I find anything more than light makup to be a turnoff to me, and even with light makeup, I'd only be interested in someone who had enough confidence and self-respect to be able to go somewhere without it.

Hm. Well, while I did say Trudi and I would get along well, I suppose I'd better post again.

I don't particularly care what a lady looks like, as long as they're acceptable to be seen with in public. For me, I'm more interested in the smaller, quieter, cuter ones, rather than those you see every day that wear tons of makeup, are loud, obnoxious, considered "hot", and just aren't very smart.

They have to have a good, understanding personality, and be able to tell when I'm joking. The main reason I don't have a lot of people in real life I truly consider friends is because of my sense of humor- I'll often jokingly insult people, though I almost always don't mean any harm at all, and when they're being an idiot I won't hesitate to tell them so. Unfortunately, because most people at my school are idiots, this makes me stand out more and pushes many away from me. I want a lady that'll be able to tell when I'm joking and won't be too insulted at things I say.

Then again, if she's a lady that's smart, nice and understanding, I'd never insult her even jokingly, or act rudely in front of her, because I'd have respect for her.

So yeah, that's it. I'll take a smart, quiet but cute personality over looks every time, though I'd want a cute girl who doesn't have to worry about wearing tons of makeup, the best clothes, or taking an hour to get ready for the day every morning, because she'd look just fine without having to do these things.

Everyone here pretty much already knows interests and whatnot, so I'll cover my own basic preferences.

I want a guy...

-who isn't a douche or jerk, but doesn't let himself get walked on either. A generally kind person who understands what "being nice" is and where social boundaries lie.

-who cares how he looks. Appearance has never been the deciding factor in any of my relationships, since it's not a person's fault how he or she was born. What is his fault, however, is how he takes care of himself. Hygiene, exercise, grooming, etc. A smidge of extra weight is alright, since it can be hereditary and hard to change, but it shouldn't be a dominant feature. All that I ask is that the guy realizes that his looks impact how people see him, and that he takes this into consideration. Also, please make sure your clothes fit your body and the current decade. Hm, I switched persons there.

-who has some kind of drive. I see too many lumps who just don't give a care. They sit back and let their life go nowhere, and they're okay with it, and that just floors me. I want a guy who knows where his life is going, and has plans to carry it through.

-who has a decent family. When I marry a person, I marry his family, so I'd better make sure it all fits together. You will have a life of utter hell if a parent hates you, or vice versa. Also, I'd like to be proud of saying I married into a certain family. The family should be decent and looked well upon by the community. This means no mafia families. XD

-who respects authority and the order of things. A guy who treats himself as the only authority around is a complete and total turnoff to me. But also, he shouldn't be bossed around by everyone, either. There needs to be a medium.

-who shares a similar financial status, so that in the future we'd both be coming from a similar base and standpoint on how to handle money.

-who has class. He should know etiquette and how to behave at a dinner party or banquet. He should also own a freaking suit, for chrissakes.

-who views the world and situations and himself and others realistically. Self-explanatory.

-who has a belief in God, but not the crazy kind. Common sense is a must.

-who shares my political and social beliefs. I feel that the same general end of the spectrum would be enough.

-who doesn't have some weird underlying issues or complexes. Something like that can disrupt just about everything.

-who is of my own race, or at least the same culture. Things just work better if you're not constantly having a clash of traditions, no? I know there are many exceptions, though. Certainly we're all reasonable here. o.o

-who has a brain. This is obvious. XD He doesn't have to be a brain, but some smarts are definitely good, as I'm sure most of you guys would agree. =P But! This person must not feel the need to advertise his intellect and shove it down everyone's throat. I have seen this, and it is not pretty.

-who isn't a jerk. I know it was the very first thing I pointed out, but I have to say it again for emphasis. I've known too many jerks who don't know how to forgive or apologize, even if they themselves were in the wrong. x_x But these are stories for another time.

As for looks, I don't have a hair or eye preference, but I've found that I definitely do like it if the hair and eyes contrast. I like dark hair with light eyes, or light hair with dark eyes, but not light with light or dark with dark. I don't know why. XD I don't go for the manly types, but they shouldn't be shrimpy, either. Just a normal guy. Height should be taller than I am, but not towering. X3

I guess...to sum everything up, I'd like a decent guy who understands the golden rule.

Hm. I sound really cynical in this post. XD I'm totally not. I'm a goofball.

And just so no one can say I neglected to mention it, of course the guy and I would have to get along great and love each other. XD That's covered in similar interests and stuff, which others here have already touched on. He needs to be able to balance video games and the rest of his life, though. Priorities.

-sigh- I think I need an arranged marriage.

this topic is still on top? o.o omg...

Why not? It's a lot more light-hearted than many of the things in this forum and people sometimes prefer that. I know I do.

Now answer the topic question yourself Bub darn it >=/

um... that they look different than your sex in personality, body, mind, feelings, the way they do things...

I'd want a girl that looks different than my sex, too.

Reading this thread has made me realize I am only ever attracted to a guy for how he looks.

Wait a minute, wait wait. *puts on girl costume*

Reading this thread has made me realize I am only ever attracted to a guy for how he looks.

There we go.

Ouch, Hedgie, let's not get together. >_>

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-who cares how he looks. Appearance has never been the deciding factor in any of my relationships, since it's not a person's fault how he or she was born. What is his fault, however, is how he takes care of himself. Hygiene, exercise, grooming, etc. A smidge of extra weight is alright, since it can be hereditary and hard to change, but it shouldn't be a dominant feature. All that I ask is that the guy realizes that his looks impact how people see him, and that he takes this into consideration. Also, please make sure your clothes fit your body and the current decade. Hm, I switched persons there.

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-who has a decent family. When I marry a person, I marry his family, so I'd better make sure it all fits together. You will have a life of utter hell if a parent hates you, or vice versa. Also, I'd like to be proud of saying I married into a certain family. The family should be decent and looked well upon by the community. This means no mafia families. XD

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-who respects authority and the order of things. A guy who treats himself as the only authority around is a complete and total turnoff to me. But also, he shouldn't be bossed around by everyone, either. There needs to be a medium.

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Uh, you're talking to a wannabe philosopher who likes to challenge why certain things are the way they are. XD

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-who shares a similar financial status, so that in the future we'd both be coming from a similar base and standpoint on how to handle money.

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I'm poor. >_>

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-who has a belief in God, but not the crazy kind. Common sense is a must.

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I'm not an athiest, but I'm not super-religous as well and my opinion of "god" isn't quite good. >.>

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I think you do. But don't take that as an insult. That's probably the only way I'd ever get married. XD

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My dream girl is a 7ft tall russian girl with long golden hair down to her waist. The whole house will shake when her manly, expressionless voice cries out "STEWIE COME TO BED. "

Ooooh, you just made my skin crawl

Hiro just made me lolz.

I share similar views to other people, really, in where a woman should carry enough self respect that they don't let themselves become obese but at the same time it's not neccessary for them to have a perfect figure.

Slopping a lot of makeup on a face isn't too appealing, either.

That said I generally don't care what they look like, as long as its reasonable. I'd go more for personality, to someone that matches mine in a way, share similar interests and such.

But I don't think any of it will ever really matter as I don't have the confidence to ever get a girlfriend and as such have had one.

Also lol @ me actually posting in MG.

I'm a little surprised. Well, no, I'm not, but if yopu think about it, it is.

People not just in America, but the world over, are said to value looks highly. Look in any pop culture magazine, teen magazine, or whatever, and you're gonna fnd a lot of beauty product ads, a lot of perfectly-beautiful people, etc.

But yet, you ask individuals what they prize most highly int he opposite gender, and the average response seems to be "As long as they aren't hideously ugly...I prefer a good personality." and everyone's comments on makeup.

Then again, that's probably just the type of person most likely to brose internet forums, I dunno.

You're very right, SX. And it just comes down to psychology.

Whether anyone wants to admit it here or not, appearance plays a huge role when you first meet a person. After all, the only thing you know of them is how they look, maybe their voice. First impressions are really difficult to change. If you don't like the way they look to you, you'll avoid them. If they look nice and carry themselves well, chances are you'll go out of your way to see them again and get to know them.

So yeah. It's good to keep yourself extra tidy and looking nice if you're looking for somebody. Of course, it's good to not let yourself go once you're established in a relationship as well. Like I said, it's not a matter of vanity (That's when you take it to the extreeeeme, which I doubt many people here do). It's just basic social psychology.

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Some of us have just happened to find others as vain as we are.

Well, yeah, I nkow that, which is why most people are, as I said, not totally abandoning looks - Most of the people that've posted so far say they just want someone that can carry him/her self well and looks decent.

So much for the "looks are all important" views of most of the women in my school. o.o

Looks do play a part in that 'first meeting' And sometimes I can't help but wonder when people say they like the opposite sex for their 'personality' if they aren't just lying. More so if its a really young person.

Of course they're lying.

Would you rather talk to a supermodel or someone who is usually mistaken as a gorilla?

Actually I always avoid the supermodel looking sorts because I associate them with bitchyness/nastyness etc

Would you rather talk to a supermodel or someone who is usually mistaken as a gorilla?

I don't think anyone here goes for the horribly ugly types. But as Susan said, I'd associate some uber-high-maintenance-look type woman as someone who'd just look down on me anyway.

HI! I'M DAISY! x one million

*but I'm super hot so just ignore my lack of brain *

She and I have to be able to maintain a high level of witty banter. This is the most important standard. This obviously means she needs to be intelligent, well versed in extremely obscure pop culture references (or easily able to pick up on them), have a bunch of common interests, and a speaking voice that I don't mind listening to for hours on end.

Looks are important too, obviously. I can appreciate a nice figure, but a nice face is more desirable. Smelling nice is a major plus.

That's about it.

I'd have to say that, indeed, personality is the one single thing that attracts me to the opposite sex. I like a woman who has self-esteem, ambition, compassion, a sense of humour, and some idea of what goes on in the world around her. Bonus points are added for trustworthiness/fidelity, similar political views, and extra sophistication.

There's perhaps only one thing that truly drives me mad: insincerity of character. Anyone who goes the lengths to deceive me about who she is has earned my automatic contempt. I'm also pretty laid back, so anyone radiating "high-maintenance" are essentially bearing a natural repellant to me. Beyond these few things, I try to refrain from being judgemental, and otherwise quirky behaviour rarely unsettles me. I have yet to find myself in a situation where the woman was, per se, "smarter" or "more refined" than me...which reminds me that I ought to add "able to tolerate my ego" to list of bonuses.

As for physical beauty, perhaps it's just me, but I find that, once I've taken a fancy to someone, I then admire her physical traits and not the opposite way around. I'm inclined to think ths phenomenon happens quite a bit, actually. It's not to say I'm going to ignore a chronically unkempt appearance forever (verily, smelling nice is a major plus), but I tend to see the physical beauty in a woman as part of the whole rather than an element of instantaneous attraction.

well, mostly
she loves me
i love her
she doesnt care about money]
she has beautiful eyes
she doesnt dump when when i couldn't hang out with her because i OD'd on morphine and couldnt even make it out of my room. she laughs with me about it.
she doesnt have to love my dumbass friends, but she cant try to change them or seperate me from them.
and she has a good sense of humor, since im serious about 6% of the time.

If she's a completely perfect girl, and then she leaves me all of a sudden and ruins me, I'd have to drown her.

Face. I can't really tell specifics though, it's hard to explain. I could give examples if I went through the photoexchange but I'm too lazy.

Other than that? I'm an arrogant bastard. I like to be needed. So even the clingy types are ok by me.

~Tobe

Uh, sincerity, honesty, accepting me for who I am, and dealing with my gaming habits and having someone to talk to when I'm down. That's prolly it.

Oh boy...I should come here more often. I'm going to try and keep it short. I'm definitely a fan of more basic looking girls. I don't care too much for the "California- types". She needs to be somewhat humorous and intelligent. Easy-going, determined, and hardworking. I love a girl that has eyes...that take me to another place when I look into them[only known on girl like this and she was my only girlfriend...sucks she's nearly 5000 miles away]. Height doesn't really matter to me...I mean...I know most people seem to have certain height requirements or something...but I don't really see how height could effect how you feel about someone...but it can, I suppose.

On a more biased and totally subjected viewpoint...I do have quite a fondness for South American and Asian girls. >_< Yea it's weird...like...i'm not really picky but when it comes down to it...i'd say girls of these descents are without a doubt the most gorgeous in the world. Heh.

I suppose that about gets it.